I now know for sure that she has been a heavy user for the past year and more than likely used our entire relationship. Of course there were signs and unusual behavior that I should have noticed and been suspicious about but I was completely nieve as to what to look for. None of my family or friends have ever had this problem.
She was long gone by the time I figured out what was going on. At first she was very friendly to me when I was still blind. She even spoke of reconciling. Once I confronted her with the truth I became hated enemy number one. Now she acts as though I was the one that destroyed our marriage, blaming everything on me. She has cut off all communication with me, changed her phone number and she has told me to never contact her again.
This may be for the best as I need to work on my own recovery. However, it is still hard to take having been in a loving relationship with this women for 4 years that appeared to me to fall apart so suddenly.
So my question is this? Why do meth users turn on the ones that care for them the most?