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racebannon	Its over - I am going to make it!	Lead	[-]
Posts: 213 (07/01/09 09:45:57) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Has the insanity stopped - I think so, yes. Me and the X had a big fight yesterday. She was banging and crashing things in the house, I told her to STOP IT. Next thing she goes into the den and starts painting it. When she finished the first coat, she started packing her things. She continued to crash and bang things - I asked her what the hell the problem was..... She slammed the door in the bathroom, and came out an hour later - full makeup, high heels - you know - looking ready to make money. I've seen this movie before. Again the past few days she was callin rehab, telling me she had to change to save "us" - whatever, I heard her make the call, same old disinterest coming out of her mouth - lets just say she doesn't sound like she events wants to call them. So she left with 2 suitcases - stupid me followed her an hour later and I always know where to find her. She was coming out of a dealers place - she already scrored her money and drugs - jeezus that girl can always get it when she needs it. I confronted her - angry as hell. She stared at me with cold eyes and said "go away i'm not coming back". I told her I loved her and to look me up in a year if she has rehabbed herself. She just walked right past me and started dialing on her cell phone. I got back in the car and drove away. Can you believe it? She texted me latre last night and said " did u go to sleep yet? Goodnite"....waht a crzay nutcase. I didn't reply... I feel free today - the best I have felt in a year. I feel in my heart that this is it - I wasn't jealous of her yesterday - just angry...I kept saying to myself "this is it, you can be free of crazy girl".... I wonder what she thinks...the fact she texted me after says she wants to keep the door open..... I have the strength now to keep it closed. I think now is a great time to take a 2 week vacation out of the area.
nineyearsclean		#1	[-]
Posts: 9352 (07/01/09 09:50:39) Best Friend to KCI Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	You would be wise to nail the door shut, put boards across it, and....ah hell, just put up a wall and get rid of the door altogether. Seriously.
knownfear1		#2	[-]
Posts: 1120 (07/01/09 10:00:12) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	I hope your hell is over race! It's time to start the healing.
jg1985		#3	[-]
Posts: 685 (07/01/09 10:07:36) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	racebannon wrote: She was coming out of a dealers place - she already scrored her money and drugs - jeezus that girl can always get it when she needs it. Race......I don't usually respond to you.....but I know your story well......you are me.......2 yrs ago. In the statement above you seem to think she is different.....better than most......NOT...... They ALL get IT when they want IT......ALL OF THEM....... She will use you until you are tapped out....... Please take that vacation.....YOU deserve it...... jg
Loraura		#4	[-]
Posts: 8965 (07/01/09 10:49:59) Moderator Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Now is the time to change your phone number. Just do it. Do it now while you are strong. Just like with the addict who hits a bottom and says "that's it, I'm done" the view can always change later on. Take the steps now to seal the deal.
danimal55		#5	[-]
Posts: 9288 (07/01/09 11:09:41) Forum Star Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	A superb update man! You're make-ing it....& "it" certainly is a process. i.e. she's not quite the "ex" if you had a fight yesterday. IMHO Detatch with love and understanding...neither of which come easy, both of which are very do-able... IMO you're do-ing both. WTG racebannon...our concerns for you can now morph into relief and optimism. (one of your recent posts had us QUITE alarmed) We Won't Get Fooled Again eh? vacation? how 'bout the Grand Forks/Okanogan area? PS...Out of sight...out of mind (hopefully) Remember: • We are what we think about! • What we think about expands. • We feel what we think about. • We create what we think about in our lives. • When awareness increases, we draw to us what we think about. • We attract what we think about. http://www.enotalone.com/article/4294.html Last Edited By: danimal55 07/01/09 11:20:24. Edited 2 times.
LEG		#6	[-]
Posts: 186 (07/01/09 11:10:32) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Yes. Change your phone number now! Loraura is so right. This is your chance to really not turn back. Good luck race!
wonderwoman		#7	[-]
Posts: 2022 (07/01/09 11:35:14) Member Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	And definitely take two weeks and do something really FUN for yourself - whether it is relaxation or an adventure - find yourself laughing again - okay? Now is the time to rearrange the bedroom - buy new sheets or something like that - erase the reminders and move forward. Just in time you can celebrate your freedom as we celebrate it nationally .... I know - I know - please do not get all PC on me about that... The Huns were raiding hordes too! It is the history of mankind and what it has taken to rise up from the muck - and on that note - RACE RISE UP AND WALK
smilewasmask		#8	[-]
Posts: 4067 (07/01/09 12:42:10) Forum Friend Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	PERFECT time for a Vacation!!! You WILL Survive this! YES, you WILL !!!!!!!!! Great advice about changing your phone number AND redoing your bedroom.
silent		#9	[-]
Posts: 822 (07/01/09 14:12:52) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	racebannon wrote: I confronted her - angry as hell. She stared at me with cold eyes and said "go away i'm not coming back". I told her I loved her and to look me up in a year if she has rehabbed herself. She just walked right past me and started dialing on her cell phone. I got back in the car and drove away. Can you believe it? She texted me latre last night and said " did u go to sleep yet? Goodnite"....waht a crzay nutcase. I didn't reply... I feel free today - the best I have felt in a year. I feel in my heart that this is it - I wasn't jealous of her yesterday - just angry...I kept saying to myself "this is it, you can be free of crazy girl".... I have been through that sh*t a long time ago.. Trust me on this, you have to act like you do NOT care about her at all.. If she comes around, it will be a week or two, or maybe a month.. but she has to realize that you stopped caring.. May or may not help you.. everyone is different.. but I think that if you even give the slightest hint that you give a dam, she will just do it again.. You have to completely let go and walk away.. otherwise in my opinion, there is no chance. But that is just my opinion on this. The person has to know that they lost something because of what they are doing. Last Edited By: silent 07/01/09 14:15:05. Edited 1 times.
chrisgonz		#10	[-]
Posts: 868 (07/01/09 18:27:11) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	YAY!!! Take 9's advice too... just because you're gone does NOT mean she will stay away!! LUCK & PEACE!!!
racebannon		#11	[-]
Posts: 214 (07/01/09 18:59:03) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Yup - need to change the number...again..she is texting me crazy stuff - saying I am sleeping with her best friend (i have never met her)....thanks all
Loraura		#12	[-]
Posts: 8967 (07/01/09 19:30:12) Moderator Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Call right now and have the number changed. Seriously. No time like the present. Just do it.
chrisgonz		#13	[-]
Posts: 872 (07/01/09 20:06:11) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	don't even bother with defenses... she's off the hook... change your number and RUN forward. She's not going to want to let you go, she may pull the suicide routine even to keep you in her "pocket". imo... that girl's got game and you're just a pawn on her strategic dope fiend board. It's your choice to "play" along.
LivesWithWolves1	Grab on to your Ass Race	#14	[-]
Posts: 185 (07/01/09 21:02:04) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	You seriously need to hold tight here - Listen to Chris Gonz ... She is right on Warm wishes You so deserve so much more. Try to find the light that surrounds you and reminds you how awesome you are and that you deserve to be happy in this life. Follow it - you will be fine. It is over - NOW - let her go ... give her up to a higher power and move on with your life. You will MAKE YOURSELF happy. I promise you - life will be good and you will be much better off.
hvnlykarma		#15	[-]
Posts: 31 (07/02/09 01:14:35) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	As hard as it is, they're right. You need to cut yourself off from her. Until she's ready to get clean on her own - not for you or any other reason - this will never change. Easier said than done, I know. You deserve to have this drama OUT of your life. You deserve better than what you're allowing yourself to put up with. The more you "yo-yo" back and forth between being done and giving her one more chance, the worse it will be for YOU. Take care of yourself. www.thenext24.blogspot.com
wildflower		#16	[-]
Posts: 156 (07/02/09 06:29:19) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	. . . and when you are on that vacation and you find your mind constantly drifting to the subject of "her and would of could of should of" remember you cannot afford even that indulgence. You must stop thinking of her. If you feel you must do something...read about phychopaths or sociopaths because it sounds to me l ike she is headed for the meth psychosis (if not already there). You cannot heal wrapped inside her madness--even if she is not physically present. Keep coming here and you will find peace and support....Wishing you the peace you so deserve...............
knownfear1		#17	[-]
Posts: 1154 (07/02/09 06:38:44) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Listen up Race, there is some really good advise being given. I would definitely change my number. Take care
smilewasmask		#18	[-]
Posts: 4073 (07/02/09 07:18:42) Forum Friend Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	I am excited for you , Race! A brand new , fresh life is starting right NOW! And it sounds as if you are really able to actually pick up and take a vacation?? Change your locks and phone number first... Throw out the sheets and start over! And then get out there and have a GREAT time. JUST DO IT. WHAT do YOU like to do ? WHERE would YOU like to visit? You are now Free to remember what it is that makes YOU Happy. I hope that you are feeling better and stronger with each passing moment.
Loraura		#19	[-]
Posts: 8969 (07/02/09 07:23:57) Moderator Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Got a new number yet? Cell phones have customer service 24 hours a day generally!
wonderwoman		#20	[-]
Posts: 2025 (07/02/09 07:48:36) Member Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Race - you okay today?