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 Help442 |
Re-unite after sobriety |
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Posts: 2 (05/22/08 17:25:19) Newcomer! |
If my ex successfully completes a rehab program, should I consider reuniting with her, or am I just opening myself up to more misery and disapointment? My
friends have basically told me there's no "upside" to the situation, but I wanted to ask people with experience in this area.
Thank you in advance for your responses. |
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Posts: 18 (05/22/08 17:39:51) |
This isn't a joke but not terribly helpful
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Posts: 1482 (05/22/08 17:42:38) Moderator |
My best suggestion would be to wait and see if her actions match what recovery should be.
My oldest daughter knows she is no longer welcome in my home until she finds recovery and has a minimum of one year clean/sober. It's difficult enough as it is to stay in recovery early on and deal with all the emotional ups and downs, and throw in trying to work out a relationship, and well, the results aren't always very good for either party. That's just my opinion from having been on both sides of the fence 
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Posts: 6875 (10/08/79 11:11:51) Moderator |
I think that time is your friend. No need to rush. Take the WYSIWYG approach.
"What you see is what you'll get." So take time to see, then decide. |
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Posts: 9 (05/22/08 19:46:58) Newcomer! |
As an EX-Meth user! Im also a 19 year veteran of marriage (5/26) ! I too put my loved one through t-total HELL , for bout 5 yrs , with my battle with Meth!
Luckily she loved and cared enough for me to stay with me. She fought with me plenty over it and trust me it was not pretty !
It has been 20 mnths since I made the choice to stop using meth. Our marriage, and pretty much entire family relationship is doing great now! In my life , the Loved ones that I have now, are the same as before my meth use. They are also the ones that loved me and I hurt the most during the insanity of my use! My wife, my son ,my mother I owe my life! They do not deserve the hell of meth use! So to your question.. Yes it is possible.Is it easy ? Not really! Is it worth it ? Only if shes committed to not using meth! Period! |
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Posts: 1093 (05/22/08 20:19:05) |
Help442,
Personally, I would not go back to my ex. Too much has happened, and I almost lost my life - lost everything else, and went through the most horrible ordeal of my life. However, this is not always the case. I would agree with Lo and say, give it time - PLENTY of time. And see if she is really going to work a program or just say, "well, now that treatment is over, I'm cured," or act like it was no big deal. Meth addiction is A BIG DEAL, and if you really spend time getting to know those whose recovery has been successful, they've been at it and "working it" for a long time. I could be mistaken, but my understanding that "early recovery" is the first two years. Only you can know. If you subscribe to a Higher Power, that's who I would consult. Many Blessings, Starfishy ><> |
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