I've been off and on your board for quite a few years. I'm the father of a 35 year old additc. I've went through this with him since he was 18. Three rehabs and thousands of dollars. I neve accepted that he was an additc and not a benger. I've rescued him over and over telling myself that if he dies, I did all I could. I never wanted to second guess myself with the "What if" I now accept that he is an additc and if god don't intervien, most likely will die alone. Please, I just want to know, how do I tell him his mother and I have given all we can both material and ourselfs. I feel like I abandoning him.