- Regarding the seriousness of meth use, please understand that I am VERY WELL AWARE of the incredible destruction that meth use brings. There’s really no way that I would minimize the importance of understanding how serious it is. But I also feel that, in many cases, it is actually a symptom of something that was present before meth entered the user’s world. Sometimes we might say that the meth use is a symptom. Treating the symptom is indicated before treating the causation problem first because continued meth use can bring disaster more quickly than almost any other maladaptive behavior. But thankfully, most treatment programs also include the help needed to address the issues that led to meth abuse. That’s why I often advocate treatment over 12-step if a choice between the two must be made. Treatment and 12-step together are much better though.
Jail can be an eye opener for some people. I will never dispute that fact. But I also think that number or percentage is relatively small. It is a risk that doesn’t seem too good in my opinion.
- The likelihood of an addict becoming “reformed” in prison or jail is scarce. Not impossible, but not likely either. Although in a few cases, it might.
- Drugs are readily available in most jails and most prisons.
- Many prisoners or inmates hookup with others, begin to create a “network’ of criminal connections, and expand their skills at performing certain criminal activities.
- Having a criminal record is often devastating, permanent, and a severe hindrance in many occupations, professions and career paths.
- The person you “turned in,” may forgive you, but you’d better believe that he will never forget who it was that turned him in.
- Jail is expensive, not only to the jail (society), but also to the family.
Loss of the ability to work, to be a part of the family, to be a spouse, lover, parent, sibling, son or daughter. The perception of guilt and shame are sometimes very brutal. Every person in jail is/was someone’s baby girl or baby boy. The stigma of “Ex-con” isn’t something to be regarded lightly.
- I have also been married four times. Talk about risky? My current wife had also been married before. We both had kids from previous marriages. Can you imagine how slim the odds are? Statistically, we looked like very hopeless candidates for marriage success. My current wife, Mrs. Sfj, (she prefers that handle on the internet) and I have been happily married since August 11, 1978. In about ten months we will be celebrating thirty-six years together. The reason this marriage worked, IMHO, is because I looked for something different. My first three wives, I loved, but for the wrong reasons. Remember the phrase, “WE SEEK THE TEETH THAT MATCH OUR WOUNDS.” That means that many people go after the same type of person even if they have been hurt in the past by that type. I was determined to do things differently – and I did. Somewhere on this forum, today, I think I read a comment about love being the most destructive drug. I totally disagree. I think love is the greatest healer, and reason for living. But I also think that love is something that must be given. It is my responsibility to love. The most painful experience in life is unrequited love and I would wish that on no one. Shakespeare had it right. “Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
But much better than that is to love and be loved. Years ago I posted about what my wife did to help me get through withdrawal and recovery. Maybe I should dig that post up again. An oldie but a goodie.