My husband says the only reason he uses meth is because our relationship is bad. That we don't have one anymore. That he doesn't feel loved anymore. That he only uses meth because of our marriage. Which has not been good very several years now. He says he doesn't feel loved and its his way of hiding from it instead of confronting it.
So do you think that I give him all the love and affection that he wants that he will stop using meth? They say that if you get to the underlying problem of why you use you will not want to use anymore if you fix the problem. Is this worth a try or is he being manipulative? Is he just trying to blame me for his use?
He thinks we need marriage counseling. I think he has a drug problem that causes the marriage problem.
He doesn't see himself as a addict. He is just a occasional user. It is me that is the problem. I have tried to get him to read stories on kci of other users, spouses and love ones. He refuses he wont even look. Meth is not the problem. He wouldn't use if I didn't give him a reason to use.
He has never taken any money from me. I don't give him money either. He doesn't steel things, or pawn things. So he says he has no money to do it. But he still stays out in the garage sometimes all night. He says he "falls asleep out there". So he doesn't seem to fall into the category of an addict. His eyes are dilated a lot also. He says its when hes not using that it makes him feel funny and his eyes get big. It use to be that his eyes were big when he was using. Does this change as they use more?
I really want to believe him but somethings telling me he is lying about it all. Am I really being stupid here or what?
Im soooo tired!!!