justplaintired wrote:

and see him beyond his use,
JG - You seeing him beyond his use is you seeing someone who does not exist now and may never exist in the future.
It is the primary cause of your pain - because you love and see him as he may have once been and as you wish him to be and not as he is.

I am so sorry for your pain.

The best thing I did to help me unglue the rose colored fantasy glasses was to listen to exactly what was said and watch exactly what was done and not put a pretty spin on it (something being in the marketing world I am very good at doing - making the ugly look pretty...)

You are not too old to be free of the humiliation of a dishonest, unfaithful man.

Sending you love and strength -

L

edited to say - I took a tape recorder and taped some of the nasty stuff he said to me over the course of a few months and found it much later - playing it helps me stay resolute and stop the magical thinking dead in its tracks.

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