It's OK to disagree.

But Robby, how well is your opinion supporting your recovery?

Acceptance of other people, places, and things is a huge part in most people's recovery that I know. People I know who avoid relapse get the hell out of dodge when the situation is slippery for them.

It took me a long time to realize that I needed to limit my time with my father, especially if it's at his house. (It's better in a public place like a resteraunt.) I didn't want to admit that it triggered me to be around him, but IT DOES. Accepting it was the first step in limiting my risk. Planning ahead, and taking steps to lower the risk helped me find a way to not disown my father, yet protect my recovery. it wasn't his responsibility to change. it was my responsibility to find out what supported my recovery, and what actions I needed to take to make it happen.