Here's what I think....even if the "ex" dealer just came by for a social call, it's still probably a bad idea to be hanging out with him (?) anyway, because that's a possible dangerous association. Meaning, even if he didn't get anything that time, the temptation is just kind of "there". Too tricky, too much temptation.

And yeah, you have to go with your gut. I'm really sorry this is happening. Do the screaming thing. It really might help you. If you don't have a nice loud place to go, screaming into a pillow might help.