Please don't think I'm judging you, because I'm not. I was just trying to give you a little peice of my story in hopes that it would give you a little insight. I have never been the loved one only the addict so I truly don't know exactly how you feel or what your going through. But my wife and I have been through a lot of counceling and I've learned how it made her feel. I never cheated on her with another woman, but acording to her I might as well have and I totaly understand that. Realy I did something much worst, meth. My first wife cheated on me, kept our daughter out all night in bars, and the list goes on. There were no drugs involved, she was just young and dumb. long story short we got divorced, and it was for the better. I don't judge you man, I feel for you. KCI is a great resource and there are others as well. You'll get openions from both sides ( loved ones and addicts ) which is a good thing. But remember there only openions take the good with the bad and do whats right for you and your kids and you can't go wrong. Good luck and Keep posting.