Take it from me with a 30 year old daughter who's still an active addict. The best thing that I could do was detach and allow her to live her own life.

Those kids need one parent who is whole and healthy for them, and I know you want what is best for those kids.

I wasn't there for my oldest daughter the first 8 years of her life, and I carried that guilt for a long time into my recovery. I was her best enabler when she started into her addictions.

I sleep well at night now knowing that I have placed her in God's hands, and I'm going to stay out of his way.

I'm sorry for your pain.