*He is what many would describe as a hillbilly
*knowing this guy was so far down the social ladder, I never suspected anything sexual.
*She has always been a good mother. Not great, but good.
*I "knew" nothing sexual was going on because this guy is so far beneath her
*this guy is so far beneath her.


Jeez...
......you sure you want my answer?
I think I'm too far down the "social ladder"
when I was using meth, I was even further down it.
....this guy has a momma, she could be right here..
He was'nt born a meth addict.

....my soul is as good as yours and don't forget it.
at least I never judge anyone in this way. .....wow!

now we can continue.


I know she fights a battle within herself because I can see the pain and turmoil on her face.

You make weird expressions when you do speed. your facial expressions can't keep up with your mind.

I can no longer believe anything she says though, being a cheater and a liar.

In my opinion, it's over, unless you enjoy cat and mouse games, and you will allow yourself
to be seen with someone so inadequate as yourself.
....she'll get there, don't worry.


When I asked her if she was screwing this guy, she said that if she was going to do that, it wouldn't be with him.

She might not be screwing him, he might be her dope dealer, and she's in love with meth
...rather than tell you that....saying she screwed him, covers her tracks.
you never can tell whats true and whats not.

If it lead you away from the fact she's a meth addict, she's happy.

Not a ringing endorsement of our marriage, but it does appear she knows this guy is not worthy of her. She even said that she chose him for the affair because he would be easy to leave due to his social standing.

see above ^

The motherly instincts seem to be gone.


that sounds like us....
.....but then again "she never was great at it"

She used to have to be in bed by 10 or she'd be a wreck the next morning. Now, she stays up much later, often way past midnight on weekdays.

I surprized she sleeps at all...
.....either she fakes it, or, the booze.
I never drank, I was just a meth addict, others could answer this better.

When at home, she spent almost all of her time at the barn, while the rest of us were normally at the house.

she's smoking dope, it sounds like, or shooting it.

If she wasn't not off to Peel (where the guy lives), she'd be on her secret go phone at the barn.

using dope, making dope deals, and picking up.

She gets drunk almost daily now, and she goes through vodka bottles at a startling rate (I know one can drink like a fish while using meth). She seemed in moral pain on such days, seemingly ashamed of whatever she had done (it could have been the affair alone, I suppose).

Yes, she's ashamed of being an addict.
...I'm not completely convinced she's fuckin him.
meth users hang together to use.....it's a time altering drug...time flies.

I missed so many signs over the past year and half. My wife wouldn't do drugs or have an affair (neither would we) (she had always been so trustworthy(so was I)). My wife was simply partying with her friends, new friends. Her old friends rarely see her anymore. Rumors (all they are are rumers)



now that we're divorcing and I'm looking out for the welfare of my kids. She is a different woman.

good for you...
...that's what you need to do.



Those who know and love her think she has lost it.

she lost her husband and kids...
.....prolly her sanity.



It's not just me.


It does'nt matter....just you is the IMPORTANT thing, right now.
....you take care of those babies.

So, what do you think?

It sounds like she's using, except for the sleeping all day thing..
.,...that's kinda weird for us.
whatever it is....get outta that mess with your kids....is the best i can offer

I have no proof of what I believe is a meth addiction, and I do not know how to prove it.

a drug test...
....go to the barn and look for tin foil, bent spoons...either with black soot on the bottom.
cut up straws, mirrors with residue, dissembled pens.

.....anything weird, tell us and we'll tell you.

I'd like to somehow see her get over this. Our marriage is ruined, but my kids still need a mother.


not like that...
....they need you, and will be just fine ....compared to that example.

Thanks for any input.


your welcome.
....and remember.
this place is full of ex wreched mo fo's
...try not to judge people by their cover.

welcome to KCI image
....come back soon, you'll get more answers....

peace

suzie