Susan,

I'm so happy to hear that you're done being a volunteer!!!

I remember when you first came here seeking support, and
I recommended that you seek out a domestic violence support group...
...I still do.

I've been right where you are today...
...and I found the best support and tools in DVIS (domestic violence intervention support).

At that time I was already seeing a "shrink", was going though out-patient rehab for alcohol
abuse, and attending AA meetings. All of which were helpful, but non of which gave me
the understanding of my own self worth, and how to get over my "daddy issues", and learn
to live without a man.

Fast forward 15 years. I've got the most awesome man in my life, we were married 3 years
ago. I wasn't wanting or looking for a man when he came into my life...
he just showed up one day.

I still remember a lot of what I learned about myself in DVIS and am thankful every day
that I attended the group sessions and one on one sessions with a counselor weekly. (for over a year)

I've relapse a number of times with my alcohol issues, but not once have I allowed myself to
be a doormat for a man again. Even the one I had my children with.

I'm currently working on the alcohol issues once again, and it's a daily struggle for me too...
...but it's something I have to do for ME!

I also know Bug deserves so much more than a drug addicted mother and a drunk Nanny,
and my husband deserves a wife that can care for him when he's ill.

You and your children deserve a clean and sober life too!

Chin up,
Lady

P.S. Try this book! http://whatsmartwomenknow.com/

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