Bobbie, in addition to the suggestion of seeking legal counsel in regards to Suzy, I am going to strongly recommend you write up a behavioral contract for Jamie. If nothing changes, nothing changes, and you know it. Now you know she's drinking, and she has never ever found recovery, and you know by the last extended stay she had at your house, she wasn't willing to lift a finger to improve herself.

If you don't do that, I can promise you she is going to run roughshod over you and Mike like you've never seen before. It may take awhile, but she will. Addiction/alcoholism IS progressive, and even when she's staying dry, the disease is still progressing.

We can NOT be the best that we are for our grandchildren if we let our addicts run rampant in our lives and our households.

Take it from an old gal who has been there, done that, and got the t-shirt with both of my daughters. My oldest daughter damned near drug me down the drain with her, and I wasn't able to provide for my grandkids emotionally until I got back on track and said no more.

Be prepared before she ever gets there. Spell out the rules, and the consequences if she doesn't follow them. Follow through on the consequences or Jamie will suck you dry emotionally, and that is the last thing precious little Suzy needs.