(((((Bobbie))))) - to me - and I am sure someone will be along to correct me and my misguided notions -
you caring for Suzy is not co-dependent
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it is loving and you taking action to care for her is responsible, mature and selfless.

If having to help or deal with Jamie is part of the package in order to make sure
that child is in a safe and healthy environment then I know you and Mike will
do what you have to do to secure for Suzy what she needs and deserves.

You have no need to feel like a hypocrite. You are not acting like one.

I only hope Jamie can get it together enough to leave that mess behind and come to her senses
- and while you are making moves to bring Jamie back - please please consult with an attorney
or someone who can advise you so that should Jamie make yet another erratic choice you can
hang on to Suzy.