Thank u for replying.  I've been trying to set boundaries.  I work during the day so my husband picks up the kids & brings them to our house after school until I get home after work. He then leaves as right now he is living with his mother. It's kind of hard because he really trys to stay & is on his best behavior when here but I made it clear to him that right now it's about the kids & not us. I hope he continues NA and gets a job. It will just be quite a while before I can trust him. Thanks again & I hope to remain strong.