Here is the thing. She only posted once, and we NEVER heard his side of it. So there is no way to even fathom which one is "wrong" and "bad". I am guessing neither one of them is bad. She messed up. Is it the first time or the five hundredth time? Who knows! Does it sound like he is being an ass about it? Sure, from her point of view! Is he being a completely irrational prick, jumping her for one slip? Hmmmm probably not. Plus, who leaves their drugs out for their spouse to find, knowing it is going to be a BIG deal, and then lies when confronted? Wouldn't that defeat the purpose of "accidentally" leaving it out? But, boy, i am sure glad my husband is like he is, forgives me for being a human being with good and bad qualities, and doesn't constantly bring this up or rub my nose in it. If we discuss my drug using at all, it is on MY terms, and it is NEVER brought up during an argument, that is hitting BELOW the belt in our relationship and i don't bring up his stupid things he has done and said way back in the day. I don't do drugs anymore, it's in the past and it is staying there. I am glad he doesn't think I'm a piece of trash for having done it. I've had a hard enough time getting past it and forgiving my self for the one major #!%%+%@ attack I've made in my life. Trust me, I'm responsible and have tried my entire life (including when i was using) to keep the peace, take care of everyone, and keep everyone happy. Do you really think it would be proper for him to slam me constantly, tell me I'm a piece of meth head trash, and never trust me again....for the massive sin of...having put a straw in my nose? Sure, when i was using, i was an annoying pain in the ass. I wouldn't have blamed him if he had put me out. But if he tried to use it to beat me down and make me feel like crap now? And that would be okay? I've seen alot worse. I've seen people who sleep around, beat each other up, and who knows what. If it had been cocaine, would it have been better? Guess what i did before i did meth? Guess what i thought i was snorting the first time i did meth? The stigma against meth is why i don't tell hardly ANYONE about it. Because of course, what you say or do may be held against you in the court of LIFE. FOREVER. F*ck that. That was a really small part of who i am. I refuse to be defined by this.