what i see is that shes not willing to work on her drinking or give it up,

maybe even in a bit of denial that she needs to or that its harming her,

if nothing else

denying herself the effort it takes to recover herself and face her lifes challenges without it,

maybe even would prefer to focus on what she percieves in other people to be their problem(s)...

she's not even sure if he's using now,

and she wants to offer her "loved one's perspective" to anyone who is curious---
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now elsewhere you asked why no honest advice is being given to jen hall...well on that note;


both alanon or aa would be good places to find the answers she seeks on here.

either would be a productive move on her part - if she'd take that advice i'm sure we'd all like hear about what she learns there, maybe she could share her findings here.

i know i'm rooting for her, and that she finds the help she needs, whether here or someplace in person .

and those meetings will offer her a lot of help for dealing with both these issues.