Yes, Lax, everyone wears a mask...at some point we all have and will wear them. We never show everyone else who we truly are, that is reserved for those we most trust. And yes, even on a message board we tend to hide some parts of ourselves from others, especially when new to that forum. It's not a bad thing, it is actually a pretty good thing. It gives others and one's self a chance to learn about others, mystery if one wants a romantic view of it. When asking for advice, yes, everyone wants to present themselves in the best possible light, again, it's a trust thing.

How would anyone here responded if the scenario was presented as, I relapsed, I hid it from my boyfriend/roommate, even though I knew by doing so he would request I leave, then I got scared and tried to just hint that MAYBE it happened...Now he's upset and I can't stay there any more, how do I get him to let me back in?

A pretty negative way of presentation and probably not what would have been meant, but it's damned direct.

DUG, I agree, she needs to quit, work on recovery, and the relationship is broken, possibly beyond repair. Regardless quitting and working recovery are the two things in her best interest.

Women in general don't like to hear it put that baldly though.