First, thank you for all the responses. It is such a slippery slope and I find I do have to keep myself in check. Your support and input is my salvation.

She called me after getting home. She had called a couple who is clean and lives where she is, to ask if she could stay with them for a couple of weeks. The guy said she needed to talk to his wife to make sure it was ok. The wife said it was fine.

Things went from bad to worse at the house she is staying and by yesterday afternoon, the woman kicked her out. Thank god she had secured a place to live! It will be so much healthier for her to be out of that chaos. They treat her like Cinderella and consume all her time doing for them, cleaning, cooking, babysitting. Apparently, the woman is huge and can hardly walk, has diabetes, cellulitis and other health problems that she is ignoring. My daughter was sleeping on the sofa and things would go missing all the time. Her 20 something year old kids have overtaken the house with their friends, children etc. and leave garbage and beer cans strewn all over the front yard. They were evicted and have to be out by May 1st anyway. What a mess!

So, more good news. I guess some of my logical advice about, thinking things through and planning, instead of flying by the seat of her pants and reacting to every emotion, sank in. She told me she decided to stay there and do her program and get it done and over with. It took a couple of days, but, the fact that she had the ability to reason it out in her head is a good sign. I mentioned she should get a legitimate job so she can support herself, since she knows she will be there for probably 4 to 6 months. She said she was going to start looking right away.

On the flip side...I spent a good part of the last two days consumed with her situation, worrying and obsessing, researching housing options and resources, basically trying to find solutions for her. I held back from acting or doing for her. I sent her a posting for a sober living place and added her to my auto club for 14.00 so she can have her car towed. It amazes me that after all this time, I can revert so quickly into that savior mode, getting caught up in all the drama of the moment. That's what I have to work on. I have to take my own advice and think things through logically. Giving advice, sitting back and allowing her to figure it out. That's my homework. Things really do work out if you give it a chance.