I think we may be getting a bit off topic here...I attempted to point out that for each story we 'hear', there is another person's version of that story. A version we don't 'hear'.

Everyone likes to put themselves in the best possible light, sometimes even seeking to elicit sympathy from others. Nothing wrong with it, it just is. We also only 'hear' a portion of the story, kind of like reading half a chapter out of the middle of a book. We have no idea what lead up to the event, and we don't know then result.

What kind of support should be be offering mlida402, in the various opinions of the members here? If opinions are going to be offered, I suggest a rereading of the original posting would help in formulating those opinions.

It probably should be noted that everyone wears a 'mask'. It's a different one for different situations and people. There are very few people we show all our scars to. For example, I write fairly well, I don't do a lot of cursing etc, yet in person (as a former KCI member said "Ma could give a sailor 'language lessons'"...those particular words are casual usage when in comfortable company. When writing, i never even think of using them...could be my early training pushing through...

Anyway, I think mlisa402 needs to look to herself, she had been told 'being caught' would result in her having to leave, I assume that a upfront confession would have had a different result. So in her efforts to protect herself and her living situation, she resorted to the behavior that was sure to have the result we were told about. Perhaps her motivations were unconscious and she felt unworthy of the affections and comfort of a home and sabotaged herself.

The only half way descent advice I can give is for her to seek out a different living situation and work on her recovery and maybe work on her self esteem.