Oh, honey, honey, NO....you are NOT a horrible person....not one bit!

You have raised your kids, NO ONE could blame you one bit for not being overjoyed at taking on to raise FOUR LITTLE KIDS, committing to be their physical/emotional/financial support for possibly the next twenty plus years! We only had our two kids, and they are just now graduated and out of the house in the past couple years. I can't IMAGINE trying to be a mom again in my early forties, to even TWO, much less FOUR! And you know what that sweet little baby will be like in the next year or so up until kindergarten! A little ball of fire into everything.

God bless your niece/daughter's cousin for this very generous and loving gesture! Your daughter, if she has only been doing this for a year, has a great chance of getting past this (no matter how much of a royal pain in the ass she is being at present). She has not had this stuff ingrained into her since childhood. And when she does (and I am using 'when' rather than 'if' to convey this hope), she will be SO THANKFUL that they were in the hands of a loving family member with the time and energy to deal with this.

Sure, help out the niece and visit the kids, or watch them for a weekend, but honey, that's why we raise YOUNG kids in our twenties, when we have the energy to chase them down and keep them out of harm's way every five minutes....and in our thirties, we are not so energetic, but we have the experience to deal with the teenage drama. You don't have to be the parent anymore....you're not SUPPOSED to be! You're the grandma!

Don't get down on yourself over this! This is NOT your fault!