We try to 'keep it real'...I know that sometimes I come across as being on the side of the loved ones...but I can only address the person who is posting...and I do try to remind them that with the admonishment of 'take care of you', the reason for that is to be able to be there if and when the loved one seeks to 'come home'.

I really wish we did get both sides, then maybe we could offer better advice at least part of the time.