Yeah it never fails to shock me a little that there are still a couple of members here on kci that seem to have this chip on their shoulder concerning the "loved ones".  I`m an addict but when i read this i hardly took it as more then one side of a story there`s possibly [and likely] a whole other side to , in fact the needle on my bs detector was showing some definite signs of activity.

There has been a constant , unrelenting parade of loved ones through this forum for the many years i have been here being absolutely subjected to physical , verbal , and emotional violence , gross sexual misconduct and infidelity , abandoned without warning for days and weeks at a time , bizarre mood swings verging on split-personality , compulsive - relentless lying , and all other manner of insane behavior. As addicts we need to own it.

Constantly picking at the loved ones and searching for evidence of how we`ve been done wrong has torn this forum apart. I`m moderately ashamed to witness some of whats gone on here. Looking at this post as some kind of confirmation of how the loved ones need to own their part in the whole sordid mess we made of things comes off as petty and spiteful. Combine it with some really tacky bickering and name calling amongst yourselves and it`s a glaring sign that some of you need to focus on your own recovery and get rid of the glasses that you`re wearing that filter everything through some kind of victim mentality.

 I`m not throwing this at everybody but if the shoe fits ; feel free to try it on. Hats off to Jokersgirl and Ma for keeping it real.