I agree seeing her looking good, healthy and clear headed was a great sign. She slept and ate a lot, but it could be the first good night sleep she has had in a long time. Comfortable and safe? She went to bed at 8:00 and slept in, very late. Somewhere around noon or so I made her get up as we needed to deal with her transportation back. I know she wanted to stay, but I couldn't allow her to run away from her problems. I purchased the train ticket back. I don't think she would have done it on her own. She was sad and we talked about many things.

She wants to move back and is extremely homesick. Says she can't stay there anymore as she trades housework for rent, but they constantly mess up what she has just cleaned and then complain if she doesn't go right in and clean up after them. Also, there is a lot of backstabbing and talking behind backs etc...

Although she is on a wait list for a program, she needs to see probation and random drug tests, I think twice per month. Testing is from 8-10am only. I said, ok, you moving back now cannot logistically work as the testing site is 3 hours away. Things became a little rocky and she said, in a childlike upset voice, I'll figure it out.

So I broke it down to her. As much as you want to come back here now, you have to handle things there first. #1 you need to find a new place to live. I gave her a couple of suggestions of who to contact. This should be the first thing to focus on.

Then, go to court on the 18th and get your transfer. She said transfers take 90 days and she can't wait that long. I said, if transfers take 90 days, stay there and get your 90 day program over with. No I can't stay there! And round and round we went. It was a little rocky but I stood my ground and just decided to be the loving, caring voice of reason.

While driving her to the bus, I also mentioned when she moves here she needs to follow a program for relapse prevention and woman's issues. I suggested she stay away from men, for now, and focus on rebuilding her life, self esteem and the right person will come along when she is ready. She basically had an argument for everything.

It was an exhausting day, but I think it was good. She called me this morning, she was babysitting one of the girls babies that lives there, and I asked if she had called the lady who has leads for housing. No, she hadn't, but was going to go to sign up for food stamps.

Ok, it's a start. There was a lot of personal and basic conversations in between too. I think if I stay the course, talk to her daily and feed her suggestions one step at a time, she will get through it. I could sense her wanting me to step in and do for her, but I cannot do that anymore. Not healthy for either one of us.