Taking on the responsibility of kids is a big choice no matter the relation.  Kids deserve the best possible home they can get.  If the aunt is willing to take them it is probably better.  She is younger and has more energy.  She would be more like a mom.  Grandparents are a great choice but like you many don't have the greatest health and sometimes just can't keep up with the demands of kids like they used to.  You are taking care of them now so Im sure you aren't a horrible person for looking at alternate options for the kids.   That shows your love for them. Im sure you will still be a big part of their lives even with the aunt taking them.  You can always take them for the weekend or babysit.  The aunt will need support too if she takes the kids.  Four kids is a big change.  The kids are lucky they have options and family support.  Keep fighting for the kids, stay in contact with dcfs.  Can they change the arrangements so that the mom can't have any random person sign?  Maybe the aunt can take them for a weekend now to give you and your husband a break.