DUG I have also noticed a lot of the attitude you speak of, not in so many words but it is there. An attitude of it affects us all and we also hurt in active addiction, when the addict stops the attitude becomes get over it, not saying all here practice this attitude but many condone it. Or they are willing to discuss the pain YOU caused US with your addiction, but are unwilling to even think about the pain I may have caused YOU which perpetuated the addiction to start with. Not blaming here just stating my take. It is like saying MY problems are OUR problems but YOUR problems are YOUR problems.

I am for the most part a solitary being and do not have these relationship problems thank heavens for that, I do however read into a lot of posts what borders on this attitude

I am sure this comes off completely different than I intended and probably looks as though I am placing blame. This is not the case my addiction was my fault and my problem no amount of turning words or phraseology can change that.