Oh i know i have anger issues. Always have and probably always will. Over the years i learned to channel it into productive ways and its kept me alive in some situations. Do i want to get rid of it altogether? No. I want to be able to harness that energy and use it for productive causes again instead of lashing out. My wife has agreed to not discuss anything volatile until after ive had a chance to actually wake up but today is a perfect example of how well she sticks to what she says, bringing up something that could have been bad had i not had the presence of mind to sternly tell her we'll discuss it after work and it was time for her to leave. Why do i have to be the one to remember, control myself and implement eveything? Why cant she do some of it too?