I learned pretty quickly to give my husband the space he needed and at times I felt like walking away because it all seemed too hard. I would walk in he'd say I need to he left alone please I will call YOU when I want you that only lasted for a couple of weeks. I have said it before and I will say it again if u can get through the first few weeks marriage wise you will be ok I think even before the meth we fought ALL the time now we are in a better place than ever. After that first 2 weeks he was more his old self he still has his moments the past few weeks have been off for him but we have just found out my dad has cancer, I had a miscarriage and his family visited from interstate (so all the guilt etc he felt over what he did resurfaced) plus we had to go to his old hunting grounds so that's put the bugs back into his head.
I didn't like it when he told me to leave him alone as my way I wanted to help was to be with him and be there but he needed to be alone at the time. If you explained it to your wife would she understand. I didn't understand per se' but I wanted to help him the best I could so I did as he asked.
He now confides in me when he's feeling *!#* or wanting to use (which is more often than I'd like but he's being strong and has said he will never use again. I am hoping this is true)

I wish u both all the luck it would suck to go through marriage and meth and have it end when your clean.

I love my husband with all my being but if he ever uses again I am done. But in the meantime I am trying to help understand and protect him however I can xx