There isn't much of a relationship without trust, is there?

I am a long-term recovering addict, and I was also married to an addict. He was on parole, and beat the piss tests every time (his parole officer did regular UA's).

For my own sanity and safety, I had to walk away.

I also have a 33-year-old daughter in active addiction.

I give her the dignity to live her life as she wants to, but it is not under my roof.

I'm not a detox center, rehab, probation officer, etc.

I found great support for myself through Alanon (no Naranon where I live), reading books like "Codependent No More", and therapy off and on over the years.