Thanks you guys. It means a lot.

We did not go up yesterday as we were emotionally drained. I was so worn out too as i had been up all day, slept 2 hours, and up a whole another day. I couldnt get to sleep and was given a pill for sleep. It made me sleep.....for like 13 hours, and when i finally sort of came to, i was texting people weird stuff like, "heya what r doiunggg u? www.4 don t feel ver guud. mite be deeeaaad" LOL. No more of that. We just rested here, i did not work because i was just a mess, havent made it there today yet but trying to get headed that way.

He may get out Friday so i have made arrangements with my second job to not have to go in if this is the case. Regardless, he can forget about having me wait on him hand and foot. I will do what i can to help and will try to make sure he takes his pain meds and rests, but i'm not going to make him pop tarts and put ice cubes in his drink every half hour. He can surf on in to the kitchen and do it himself.

The roof of the car is all dented up, he must have fell on it first before he biffed it on the highway.

I am now POSITIVE he is not on our blue cross anymore. When he was able to get insurance through the national guards for $20 a month i told him to do this so i could drop him off, saving us about $80 a month. However I am not sure he did it, and probably since that would buy a case of beer, i am guessing he didn't. Maybe that is mean we took him off but you cant pay for someone all their life. We already pay his cell phone bill (not cheap) and did pay his insurance until he manipulated a family member into cosigning for him a brand new car (the 2003 one we got him for college wasnt good enough i guess, and he knew we would never cosign for a brand new car). He periodically quits and goes back to college, floats around, occasionally works, and was living with one of his friends and then they got into it, so he was at a party at someone's house and crashed there til they put him out, and then has been back with us the past week and a half. He is currently unemployed, not in school (although i was so ashamed at the hospital when they asked his occupation i said, "Student"), and possibly (probably) uninsured. He doesn't REALLY even have a house, he just has a laundry basket in the back of his car. I have no idea where the bed, recliner, and dresser i gave him are.

Its obviously possible for a (former) drug addict to be an enabler!

It's done! I'm done! While i was here talking to a plant or something yesterday, my daughter wanted to go and visit him (and probably go shopping and see her boyfriend) but had no gas in her car. She knew i was too sleeping pill stoned to write a check, and knew better than to mess with dad. So she asked my friend if she could borrow some money for gas. My friend said, no problem, we will go to the c-store and fill you up. When she went to put gas in daughters car, daughter told my friend, no, i only use premium unleaded. LMFAO!!! Not even "thanks for the free gas."

The entitlement and selfishness is going to stop and surfer boy is going to learn that when he gets home too.

In other news, my husband and i have been getting along smashingly well, the marriage counselor has decreased our sessions to every other week, and she says we are making great progress. Been spending a lot more time together, did all our Christmas shopping together, he has been pitching in on cleaning the house and stuff. And the past month, the sex has been good, too. LMAO. Just, not since the surfing incident. I just am not feeling it right now.

((((((((hugs to all))))))))))