Well, I recently just distanced myself from my addict. He was getting impossible to live with...starting arguments every single day, he was violent, and not helping out financially or any other way. I realized I spent 11 years of enabling him. He never had to deal with consequences because I always fixed it for him. But, as his addiction progressed he was damn near impossible to deal with and very much in denial about what he was doing. Now, he's in a mental hospital because he tried to hang himself after I got a restraining order against him. I feel horrible, but I also realized that by distancing myself I just might be helping him. I never wanted to abandon him... ever. I tried everything before I did this. Now I will just let go and let the man upstairs take care of him.