Yeah, the holidays can bring a lot of stress to families.

Do you think it is possible for you to take a new perspective on the family event?

Decide to have a great time.
Place yourself as "just an observer".
Don't judge everyone's actions, and remember everything that each person did or didn't do to you.
Don't react.
Don't comment negatively to any one.

Just plan to enjoy the moments......moment by moment.

Let go of the baggage of the past.  You want to be forgiven and start anew?  Everyone deserves to have that - don't they?  Forgive them too.

You may have an entirely new experience.