Firstly, thanks for all the replies! I've had an absolutely wonderful day. My family came over, and it was wonderful. smiley: smile

Traveller... my motivation? Probably what you said: "to show him you are kind." The only reason I had in my mind for replying was that I didn't want him to think I was a biatch. Which, in hindsight, seems ridiculous. Why should I care what he thinks of me? smiley: eyes

Brendar.... My reasons? I don't know if I have an actual list... But I would say... basically, because he just kept my mind going in this whirlwind. Plus, he's seeing another woman, so I really don't feel like being anywhere near him, or hearing about him, quite frankly. I think it has been very beneficial for me.

Abbey... So right! The fact that it is my birthday doesn't change things, and you know, when I saw his message, I was actually annoyed at him. Because he chose to remove himself from my life, and now he's trying to dip his toe back in now and then...? Nope, doesn't work that way sorry!!

Kevin... More wisdom! It would have opened up the doors of communication again.... And I honestly don't want that right now. I really don't. Perhaps if one day he is in real recovery and he wants to talk to me to make amends (not to re-conciliate any relationship) then, yes I would listen to him then. But not now. He's nowhere near that at all.

DayByDay.... Thanks for the message. It's funny you say that, because the only thought I allowed myself today regarding him was when I thought about what happened last year... And I remembered the gift he gave me for my birthday - flowers from the gas station and a block of chocolate. Yeah, cheers, great gift smiley: sick He used to buy me jewellery. No money for jewellery when you spend it on other things I suppose. Oh well. It's all over now. And thinking of that actually gave me peace today, and I could put him out of my mind. Because I don't miss that. No euphoric recall today, thank God! 



Thanks to everyone who replied... I knew what was the right choice, but then I started second guessing myself... So I'm very grateful that I am here, and can come here for second, third and fourth opinions. 

So thanks guys (and gals) smiley: smile