I agree phoenix, it is a normal response. When I first read the bit about anger just being unfulfilled expectations, my mind shied away, because I thought that was just a cop-out. I thought they were trying to de-value my feelings. But, it's not about that. It's all about stopping and thinking about yourself, and your feelings.

I find that when I'm angry, I can't feel much of anything else. And when I'm really angry, I close myself off. I don't know if it's stubborn-ness or just the fact that anger overrules any other feeling.

I think it's handy to be able to stop and think about why we are angry, because that way we don't just barrel along through the red haze.

It's difficult to be logical when emotions are running high, I know. But I do truly think it helps.