jg1985 wrote:
phoenix wrote:
I really respect your honesty and openness JG and I understand.... But,  P L E A S E do whatever it takes so that you don't have to ever "go there" again...It's a blessing that either of you didn't get hurt worse.

Make some calls...


   I know, Phoenix......I know. It is the strangest dynamic that has replaced the old one.......now that I have refused to have contact with him. Last night his family wanted the kids and I to eat dinner with them.....and I agreed because I just don't know how to say no to them and the truth is we all enjoy each others company. We are a family. We are.

We left and my oldest daughter asked me about Christmas. She said very angrily that she was going to Christmas there just like we always have whether he is there or not. I looked at her and told her that she will do exactly what I say to do and we are absolutely NOT going to Christmas there this year. She started crying and told me that was her family and she didn't care if he was around or not.......she loves him. I explained again how sick he is and that they (the kids) are to be no where around him at any given time......at all. I told her I was sorry that it had to be that way, but that I am her mother and I know what is best for her. I told her that she is too young to make those decisions and that it is my job as a parent to insure her safety at ALL times......and all I can hope is.....that somehow this is teaching her a very valuable lesson in life. Maybe it is teaching her some character. That's really all I can be hopeful for now. It simply.........SUX.


Gina,
I think you did the perfect thing here. Not only are you doing what is best for you & your girls at this point in time, but you are teaching your daughter (by your actions now) what is & is not an acceptable way to allow yourself (& her, by means of proxy) to be treated by someone you "love".

You know I love you as well!