If you lived your life with a giant pendulum swinging over your head, and attached to that pendulum was a blade that could easily lop your head off, you would feel GREAT RELIEF as it swished safely by...

...followed by a very healthy fear when you realized that sucker was coming back down for another pass.

Real relief comes to those who can see the whole system. Know that they're locked in a room with the pendulum. And that it will keep swinging until it doesn't.

Don't fall into the trap for beating yourself up over your own feelings. Be kind to you.