In my experience with having the bpd disorder it is not a cookie cutter disease for everyone , it is complicated and different for everyone who suffers from it. Again, I will ignore the assumption that I am not who I am. I suffer from this disorder as well as addiction. I do not try to scapegoat but understand people who do, I do not critizize them for their pain and how they deal with that pain. I feel that people doing that really do a dis service to the person with the disorder. Just some thoughts. I have only recently been given the diagnosis of bpd , but feel for those that have lived with this for years.. also, men and women that have the disorder from what my P doc told me , react differently and have different reactions and symptoms. I will try to find an article on it to post here.