Understandable Forget Suzzette , I just know what it is like to be confused and on the fence and not knowing what to do ... I feel that I am damned if I stay clean and damned if I use , so I really could relate to him and just wonder how awful it must feel to be so conflicted , this is where I am at now . I just hate to see people who are hurting be not taken seriously and not being treated with love and compassion. I could not help him as I am right where he is at ... confused , angry, sad, etc I can see where you guys are coming from , but the way that people have talked to him, with the jokes and sarcasm just seems cruel and unneeded. I wish I had an answer but I do not.