Nobody 'wants' you to lose hope, but everybody wants you to be able to recognize a situation wherein, the overwhelming weight of the evidence suggests that there is little reason to have any hope.

Additionally, a healthy human being, especially one who is not attached to another person thru family ties and/or kids and has only a 'girlfriend' relationship (and not even a long one at that) to another, will not hold on with tooth and nail to that person, that other person having wronged and disregarded him and not given him any raational reason to hold on. A person who does what is above described has fundamental character defects which need to be addressed.

Hope is a good thing, but irrational and unreasonable hope for something which
(a) Should not be so important as to justify such hoping against hope [as opposed to like a positive outlook in a terminal diagnosis situation]; and
(b) where such hope is not only unlikely to ever be realized, but when such hope has deletarious effects on one's well-being;
is NOT a good thing, and is just as harmful (if not more so) as any other false beleif, which beleif has a material affect on the conduct of him beleiving it and which material affect is a severly negative one.

Cliffs notes is that hope in general is fine, but sticking your ballsack into a kettle of boiling water over and over again hoping against hope that THIS TIME Jesus will turn the water into tapioca pudding at that LAST second before your nuts descend into it ... thats neither healthy nor admirable.

So yes, you would be far better off and in a far healthier and more realistic situation if you abandoned your false hopes of reconciling, and moving into a gingerbread house in the magic forest of candlyland, and living happily ever after.
Every time i pop into one of your threads, i leave in stunned amazement.
I dno what else to say but good luck sir...

Last Edited By: TheStranger Dec 12 09 11:43 AM. Edited 1 times.