Detective,

You have got it wrong. No one here wishes that you and your ex never reconcile under optimum conditions. We would all jump for joy if your life developed, with her in it, NOT using drugs. The determining factor in our advice to you is experience. We have all had experience with the exact same situation that you are in. We have loved addicts, hoped they would change, wasted years, suffered abuse and manipulation and in the end, it was all just wasted time. You are correct, Gods power is divine!! He can do miraculous things that we, as humans, cannot fathom. But these divine interventions are of his choosing. I prayed for a divine intervention, but it didn't happen. God loves us all the same, so if it didn't happen for me, one that God loves as much as you, maybe it will not happen for you. When I finally seperated myself from the situation, and went NO CONTACT, I was able to realize that I had chosen this person to be my husband, withoug God's guidence. Now I understand that our relationship was not what God had planned for me. It took me on a dangerous journey that God never intended for my life. I DID learn things, valuable things, from this journey. That is why I am so concerned about you.

I promise you, everyone wants you to be happy and not to be shattered into a million pieces when things don't work out. We all honestly just care about you. I understand that you have to do what you think is right. Just stop and think about the situation as a whole. Is it really fair to you? You cannot save her or make her change back into the woman that you love so much. If you continue down this path, I promise that you will realize that we all just wanted to help you. I won't "preach" to you anymore. Good luck and God bless you. You're going to need good luck and blessings to deal with what you have decided to deal with.