Detective...I hope you know that we are all just trying to understand and offer help from our own experiences and hope...

Praying for someone and loving your enemies.....is completely different than allowing yourself to be controlled and manipulated by someone...and, in turn, manipulating them via "faith"....

Do you date? Do you go out and have fun and meet people? Do you do things that YOU enjoy without worrying and fretting over your x? ..........because in your very OP....you even let her know that you were thinking of her.....like usual........