Detective, I know that you want to believe that the conditions you have changed don't mean anything but assistance to her, but you are wrong. I have been where you are and all you have done is let her know that you can be manipulated!! I am not being cynical, I am just not still in love with my addict and I can see things clearly. You will wake up and 3 years of your life will be gone. That is what happened to me.

I am a Christian, and I agree that Jesus Christ can change anyone. I tried church with my ex-husband, I prayed, I pleaded with God and my ex-husband, I did all the things that you are doing. Until she realizes that she needs to change and until God is a factor in her life, you are wasting your precious time.

You continue to pray for her, but you cannot force her to recieve Christ, or force her to stop using meth!! Until she is desperate enough to seek him, it isn't going to happen. Instead of allowing her to propel herself at mach speed toward her rock bottom, you have given her a ladder to climb up three notches. She now knows that you can be manipulated. If you talk with her on the phone or allow her to go to church with you, it will bleed over into other portions of your life. Please, let this person go!! You seem to have a lot to offer. She doesn't care about you because she isn't the same person that you fell in love with and never will be again!! Meth has taken over!!

Please do not waste another minute of your precious time!! Move on!!