Detective...

My take on it is....I see a pattern....and not a healthy one.....you constantly set "conditions" with her, and then you go back on them....all it takes is one little word or bit of attention from her and you are putty again....

...and what you are telling her is that, with the right words and even fly by the seat actions....she still has you right where she wants you....she knows that she can walk all over you and that your words do not mean shyt.....because your actions are opposite of your "conditions"...therefore, she really doesn't need to change in order to be with you...because u need her bad enough to compromise yourself...

You either have convictions or you don't....talking about having convictions is not the same as living by your convictions....no matter what...

And, I pray she finds her own Higher Power, but she needs to do that on her own....

My personal opin....you are now using church as a justifiable reason to "help" her which = u get to see her and spend time with her....examine your motives....