Astrild,

WW gave some more excellent advice - I think if the addict is not a narcistic before meth, full-blown addiction will bring it out in them. My therapist actually "remote diagnosed" my ex as a sociopath. They can be as smooth as ex-lax, and in retrospect, things he told me and that I believed from the beginning, I found were untrue. Fortunately for me, the tiny things I hear now and then are very sparse, and usually bad news for him, so I have to ask forgiveness for reveling in my own "evil" sense of pleasure in hearing them. But I also did myself a favor and asked anyone and everyone who might hear anything to keep it to themselves.

My sister, however, still lives in the same small town in which, when someone has a B.M. in the morning, by noon everyone in town knows what color it was (forgive the crude expression.) If I were you, I would ask anyone gossiping and leaking those tidbits to please have respect for you and resist the urge to pass them along your way. You don't need to hear what a mess he is making of his life, nor do you need to be the sounding board for some broad who felt it appropriate to sleep with your husband, (and get pregnant - HER PROBLEM.) WW hit the nail on the head - she DIDN'T GET ANY PRIZE THERE!! Should anyone bring him up, I'd cut the conversation off as quickly as possible.

We've been where you are, and there are no stupid questions. Mourning the loss of a marriage/loved one takes time, so be sure and take super good care of yourself. What's that saying: The best revenge is living well! Since he failed in that department, fill yourself up with all the good things in life and let him go.

Take Care,
Starfishy <><