Robin,

My daughter and parents would use ANY excuse to blame me for her addiction. I finally just told them outright what I will put up with and what I will not. Of course I have anxiety disorder and panic attacks, and I HAVE to take the meds, or I am simply unable to function well enough to work - well forget that!! But I too asked on numerous occasions to be tapered off, but the Dr. told me not to worry about it. She wasn't off-base, but being in the field of psychiatric social work, I was well aware of the possibility of dependence and the dangers of going "cold turkey." We have to weigh it out. Don't stop what works for you because you are worried about your daughter using it against it. If it weren't that, she'd just use something else.

You know until they are ready to make the changes THEY need to make, they will continue to try to blame you or anyone else in their path. My mother made the comment about two years ago that my daughter did tell her that she didn't COMPLETELY blame me for her addiction. WTF??? I stated, in no uncertain terms, that I was not to blame for her addiction AT ALL, since I didn't use, nor did I put it in the pipe and stick it under her nose. I also said, "Hey, have her run that one by an addiction counselor and see how far that gets her."

Exercise your absolute right to REJECT that BS. If she can't take responsibility for her own issues, then you are not obligated to expose yourself to the emotional abuse she will invariably inflict. Your daughter is about my daughter's age, and I can tell you, I have suffered from all ends for HER choices. I don't follow that program anymore, and won't allow ANYONE to use me as the doormat - THOSE DAYS ARE GONE FOR GOOD!

Hang in there Robin,
Starfishy <><

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