Robin,

I was your daughter, once upon a time.

In my opinion (now that I'm clean, and not involved), you did the right thing. You tried to stay sane, and not get all twisted up and into "the crazy". You tried to stand up for yourself, and just removed yourself from the bad situation and NOT get manipulated. When we (addict/daughters) go a total 180 reverse from being all mad and bitchy into eyelash fluttering "I love you, mom" and pretending we don't understand why you're upset after we've just gotten done screwing around with you....it's either A. total b.s. or B. we're so self-absorbed in our own b.s. that we're completely unable to realize what we're doing, and you really, really NEED to let us stomp around in our own cold little worlds, and please, please, please care for yourself. You are important. You need to take care of yourself. Your daughter needs to take responsibility for herself.

Keep looking for a meeting. If you can't find Nar-Anon, try Al-Anon, or maybe even try NA?? Is there another town close enough to you that might have an "Anon" meeting, for loved ones?? Don't give up. You deserve the support. ((((Robin)))) I'm glad you came and shared about it.