Astrild....

After I divorced my ex husband....I waited for him to apologize.
Rolled all of those things around in my head ad nauseum.

I was young and that was prior to many years of counseling.

I gave up hoping or waiting....a LOOOOONG time ago.

Good thing too...because that was 31 years ago and I would still be waiting.

One significant thing that helped me....

I wrote down all of my resentments, disappointments...hurt feelings
I phrased each one as if I were talking directly to him.

It took me over a week to write it all down. And about another week to keep reading it over and over.
When I was satisfied that I had all of it out....and on paper.....I set fire to it and let it all go.

What I couldn't get from him.....I gave to myself.

I hope this helps.

Abbey