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Jun 21 09 2:59 PM
Dearest Soldier, Hun, it sounds like you have enough to worry about being deployed to Iraq. Please, please keep your focus on YOU right now, and let her figure out how badly she wants to get clean. Treatment is not the "be-all, end-all," and sadly, as Rocket said, length of stay depends a lot more on insurance than anything else, . LET HER WORK THAT OUT. She is the only one who can say if/how often/how long she will need to attend meetings. Some folks don't go that route, but maybe they go to church or Celebrate Recovery or become gym rats, or even just come here, (KCI has a chat room too.) Why not send HER here as well? As much as we want to love, pray, beg, plead, kick, scream, threaten, and cry them out of it - we simply can't. Unfortunately, you've asked some questions no one can answer. I have found that, even those caught "red-handed," who really couldn't deny their use, generally totally minimized it, and often tell different versions to different people, (not necessarily lying about it, but perhaps due to the damage it causes the brain's long and short-term memory - it's anyone's guess.) This was the one place I found that was truly anonymous, (was terrified of my ex locating me or knowing anything about me - with good reason,) and it didn't cost me any gas money (really important - since I didn't even have a car when I found KCI,) and also the fact that it brings addicts and loved ones together in a way that helps us understand each other differently than say, individual counseling. If you are going to stick with her, fasten your seatbelt, it might get a lot bumpier before/if it gets better. *****Meth use can lower sexual inhibitions!!!! If you are going to be intimate with her, be ABSOLUTELY sure she has been recently tested for STD's and use protection anyway.***** This addiction is cunning, baffling, mortifying and often simply inexplicable, to say the least. But again, PLEASE don't allow it to consume you. Your plate is full as it is. Happy Father's Day & you are already a hero in my book! All my prayers, Starfishy <><
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