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Friend Getting Involved With Ex-Addict/Dealer
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 danielleq |
Friend Getting Involved With Ex-Addict/Dealer |
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Posts: 1 (07/02/08 19:16:06) |
Last Edited By: danielleq 07/03/08 17:50:55.
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Posts: 1318 (07/02/08 20:13:33) Forum Friend |
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
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Posts: 1845 (07/03/08 04:57:10) Moderator |
All you can do is give her your honest feelings and leave it at that.
I have found that often when people seek advice, unless it's what they want to hear, they disregard it. I can't control what other people do with their lives 
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Posts: 392 (07/03/08 05:05:53) |
I am very concerned that he will relapse in the future.
Why? If he's been clean and SOBER for 2 years, is active in church and doing good --- what are your concerns? I mean --- besides the obvious that she's dating a recovering addict. Which of course he COULD relapse tomorrow. That's true of ALL recovering addicts. |
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Posts: 1836 (07/03/08 10:19:47) Forum Friend |
phoenix wrote: Phoenix, if that were the case we would all just be waiting to relapse, as would all of our loved ones. Do you not believe that people can affect lasting changes in their lives? I do. I think people are capable of deep and lasting change. I also think it is a bad idea to judge a person by the mistakes of their past. |
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Posts: 1320 (07/03/08 10:53:27) Forum Friend |
Oh Ann....
My "prediction" of his future behavior IS based on his past behavior.... "He went through some serious boot camp rehab programs, and works hard to stay busy, accountable and clean. He became a Christian in jail, and his faith has helped him along and given him things to do." This Man inspires me. edited to add; As have you...
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Posts: 1837 (07/03/08 12:08:01) Forum Friend |
My misunderstanding. I was really shocked to hear you say that Phoenix, so I am glad that is not what you meant. It's all good.
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Posts: 7234 (07/03/08 12:23:35) Forum Star |
"How should I advise my friend? She is eager to know my opinion in general about this fellow, so I really want to give it to her straight."
IMO she really ought to come here and get educated and keep opinions out of the equation. All too often the advice is "run like hell", regardless of the facts. The guy appears to be a meth recovery success story and I see no indication in your post that a relapse is in store for him. Have some faith in him...he has jumped thru a lot of flaming hoops to get 2 years clean. If an unlikely relapse on his part "ruins her life" she might want to look at what co-dependency means.... and what her life means. |
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Posts: 836 (07/05/08 10:25:26) |
i'ma little slow here,is it ex user/dealer meaning the person stop using and slinging? theres alot of folks who at one time done alot of things and no
longer do them. if this is the case give the person a chance,some of us fool everyone and stay clean one day at a time.
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Posts: 955 (07/05/08 10:28:41) |
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